How Do You Rate Your Happiness?

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The other day I was having a conversation with a buddy who was not having a good day. He was looking for a new job, his house needed repairs and the list went on. I listened rather than try to console him in his time of unhappiness. He then paused and My Happinessasked me two questions: “Are you always this happy?” and “On a scale from 1-10, with 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest, how would you rate your happiness?” I was kinda shocked by the latter question because no one has ever asked me to rate my happiness. After I thought for a second I said I’m about a 9 to 9.5. His facial expression showed a look of disbelief and then he replied, “Really!”

As we continued to chat, I started explaining some of my beliefs. I honestly believe that a large amount of the grief in our lives is a product of our decisions. At first, that may sound depressing; but think about it a little more deeply, and you’ll find, like I do, that it’s an incredibly empowering thought. If our bad decisions bring us grief, then we have the power to turn our grief into happiness. Think about relationships that you stayed in long past the expiration date, people you continued to hangout with even thought they sucked all the energy out of your life and had no purpose, the job you complained about daily but were too lazy to look for another one and the list goes on. Why is it so hard to move forward? What is holding us back from happiness?

I recently ran across this quote and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it: “I think part of the reason we hold onto something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice.” If this quote is correct, I have to ask myself a few questions: Where is my faith? Is there a limit to the number of great things that can happen in a lifetime? When I look back at certain points in my life—at some of my past relationships, jobs I stayed in for too long and people who I allowed to stay in my life without a purpose—and I dissect my past actions, I realize that in the moment, I would have believed this quote to be true. But now, with benefit of time and retrospection, I know that in those moments (and in the future ones that will inevitably come), it shouldn’t be about giving into the fear of the unknown; rather, it should about changing your way of thinking. And for me, I choose to be happy!

Yes, I am happy. Yes, I am aware that everyday won’t be a walk in the park. Yes, I choose positive energy over negative energy. Yes, I will always give myself permission to be the best me without apology. Yes, I have a typical family with its ups and downs and we still love each other. Yes, I have great friends. Yes, I know that romantic love is on the horizon for me. Yes, I love life. And yes, I know that great things can happen more than once!!!

How do you rate your  happiness? What is holding you back from experiencing true happiness?


“God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain, but HE did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way. If God brings you to it, HE will bring you through it.” ~ Author Unknown


6 thoughts on “How Do You Rate Your Happiness?

  1. I love this post Shawn. When I see in my e-mail that you wrote a new blog post I get excited to click and read. I look forward to your words, your perspectives without expectation. I just experience your words and feel your passion.
    I also rate my happiness darn close to a 10. Is it because my days or my life are “perfect”? No! I agree with your perspective about our decisions however, for me, I feel I am happy because of my perspective on things. I truly believe all things happen for a reason….to teach us something….to have us experience something necessary for our growth so each day I welcome the “good” and the “bad” for the experience and lessons it gives me. With that being said, I try and remove good and bad from my vocabulary (just as much as I try and remove should….ugh!). I don’t believe our experiences are good or bad, they just are! If we can look at all the things that happen to us as experiences for growth we can CHOOSE to go with the flow and be happy in the midst of them!

    Much love!!!


    1. Thanks so much Lori for your ongoing support!! Each experience that we have is there to teach us something, so in actuality there are no mistakes just lessons!! I find that focusing on the internal things will bring us all to a a greater level of happiness. LOVE, LEARN, TEACH, HEAL atleast one of these should happen for us on a daily basis!!! Much love!!! 🙂

  2. I absolutely LOVE this blog and most of all this picture. I can heat the song “Happy” in the background.

    1. Thanks SO much Lisette!!!! It’s all a state a mind and how we choose to look at things!!! When we focus on the positive, we leave no room for the negative. For so many of us its easier to focus on the negative past experiences of our lives but we must change our thoughts and our focus!!!

  3. Life in its infinite wisdom is here to teach us through various experiences positive or negative. Experiences enables us to be strengthen for the outcome and renewed from the journey. I absolutely love it.

    1. I could not agree more Johnny. I believe we get the lesson once we stop fighting life and realize life is working for us and not against us. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!!

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